December 2021 ABA Zoom Meeting Notes

ABA December Members Monthly Zoom Meeting  12/09/2021

Called to Order 11:35

  • Introduction Question:  What do you want to leave behind in 2021 and what are you looking forward to moving into 2022
    • Sally Reid – Agape Human Services – Finally got final tax reports done and is able to officially close her business (sold to MK) and can finally open her new business, enrolled in coaching class.  Leaving behind the ABA Presidency, looking forward to Don taking it over.  
    • Steven Quick – SQ Merchant Services – Looking forward to all his physical limitations to leave, ready to hike and drive and play ball again.  
    • Jeff Maynard – Integrity Brewing – Would love to leave Covid mask behind and return to a semblance of normality with a positive outlook.  
    • *MK – Agape Community Insurance – leaving behind lack of physical activity, taking on more tennis and competitive play, getting in better shape.  Looking forward to running the business as an entrepreneur.   
    • Karen Bolin – Edward Jones – looking forward to a new year, leaving behind frustration with people not getting vaccinated and trying to focus on choice
    • *Kody Harris – WCSO – happy to leave the home office behind and is looking forward to doing her job in the public and spending time in the office with her co-workers.  
    • *Alison Stone – AHS Liaison – Paying off debts and moving forward in the new year ready to put themselves into a better financial position.  
    • *Scott Rennie – Schmidt and Yee – Leave behind all of 2020 – 2021 in respect to Covid, looking to expand business and meeting with people in person.  
  • Video – Tying Up Loose Ends by Henry Cloud (Author of Boundaries)
    • Tying up loose ends to not take into 2022.  Not taking conflict into the new year, signing up to learn something new.  Don’t let unfinished business in 2021 become 2022 unfinished business.  Make the call, put it on the calendar, and take the first step.  Call one person to hold you accountable.  
  • December Board Meeting
    • New ABA Board
      • Don Bradley has stepped into the role of ABA President.  
        • He hopes to get back to in person meetings.
          • This will depend on county plans, and ability to find a meeting site
        • Will serve 2 years
      • Scott Rennie will be ABA Vice President
        • New position and added to ABA Bylaws
        • Will serve 2 years
      • MK will serve as Treasurer
        • Will serve 2 years
      • Kody Harris is Member at Large
        • Will serve 1 year
      • Alison Stone will serve as Secretary 
        • Will serve 1 year
      • Sally will stay on as advisor
    • Will hold annual meeting in January 2022
    • Don will arrange this after we meet as a Board 
      • January 8th, 2022 – Board Retreat
    • Treasurer’s Report 
      • $1044.99 in bank
        • Includes Malia’s Payment for November services
        • Includes renewals from
          • Westside Community Church
          • Edwards Center
          • Agape Human Services
    • Challenges in 2022 are the changes required to do for our Website. The  Chamber of Commerce platform will no longer be available and we will have to rebuild the whole website.
      • Matt Casteel is reaching out to Aloha High School computer programing classes to determine if a student may be an option
      • Rebecca Bradley has experience in website development and may also be an option
      • Will need to be worked on seriously in the new year.
  • Sally is working with an AHS student on development for her new business logo.  
    • Encourages member businesses to reach out to students if they have opportunities to work with future employees from AHS. 
  • Washington County was supposed to have a representative here today but the county has been incredibly busy.
  • Reached out to the new Washington County Chamber of Commerce to see what is going on with development, but has not heard back yet.  
  • Announcements:
    • Karen Bolin – Hillsboro Elks has a drive through light display, 6-8pm, Friday-Sunday .  Take Cornelius Pass to Quatama, go towards the Elks Lodge and drive through.  Can donate unwrapped toys for their planned outgoing gift baskets.  
    • Kid President – Video encouraging us to say “Thank you” and other words of encouragement on days not just the holidays.  
    • ABA Donated $150 to Shop with a Cop.  Sally went to BiMart and spoke to the manager letting her know who the donation was going to and they gave a price that allowed a donation of 52 blankets which was the EXACT number needed.  
  • Presentation from Lisa Fitzgerald and Amy Watts-Padilla Center for Mediation and Dialogue
    • Who we are & our services
      • About Us
        • Community program of the City Services and Engagement Department (Beaverton)
          • Has services that extend beyond Beaverton
        • Providing conflict resolution and restorative justice services and education to individuals and organizations in Washington County
        • Established in 1988
      • Programs and Services
        • Mediation
        • Facilitation
        • Conflict management workshops
        • Conflict coaching
        • Community mediation
          • Neighborhood Landlord Tenant, HOA, manufactured dwelling, business/consumer
        • Foreclosure Avoidance
        • Second Home
        • Restorative Dialogue (Victim-Offender Dialogue)
        • Workplace
    • During a Hot Topic Conversation
      • Motivations
        • To persuade/convince
        • To educate
          • To have your viewpoint underwood
          • To understand the other person’s view
          • To learn more about the topic
          • Discussed as a group via chat and discussion our personal work or life based motivations.
        • Tips for dealing with difficult conversations
          • Debate vs dialogue orientations
          • Making a request
          • Saying “No”
        • Debate vs Dialogue
          • Debate
            • Listen to refute
            • Two options on the table
            • Seeks weakness inn the other view
            • Speaking for a position
            • Discourages vulnerability
          • Dialogue 
            • Learn to understand
            • Nuance and novel options
            • Seeks strengths and points of agreement
            • Speaking for yourself (rather than a spokesperson for a movement)
            • invites vulnerability
          • (discussed how this is a good reminder for how personal conversations go within our homes, the tendency to shut down if we feel we are not being heard) 
        • DEAR
          • Describe
            • Only the facts of the situation
            • What have you observed
            • Leave out interpretations
            • Example:  “The past few times you have approached me, you have stood within 3 feet of me”
          • Express
            • Share your feelings and opinions
            • Use “i” statements
            • Don’t assume they know how you feel
            • Stay away from “should”
            • Example:  “I feel nervous about Covid”
          • Assert
            • Ask for what you want or say “no” to something
            • Be direct and specific
            • Remember they can not read your mind
            • “Example:  “ I would feel better if you would stand at least 6 feet away when we speak”
          • Reinforce
            • Explain the positive effects of getting what you need
            • Clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you need
            • Example”  “if you can do that, I’ll be relieved and I’ll feel safer” 
      • Holds meetings and trainings if you are interested:  https://beavertonoregon.gov/2054/Workshops-and-Trainings
  • Don Bradley – Incoming ABA President 
    • Primary Goal for ABA is the website
      • Expansion – Getting more businesses involved
      • Help businesses see the value in the ABA
    • Look at rules going forward from the first of the year with the hope of getting back to in person meetings
      • We are as a group “zoomed out”
      • Can look as a group where we can potentially get back to meeting in person
        • The Reserve is suggested by Karen Bolin as they have a Board Room and she is a member.  The room can hold 150 but they are currently allowing 40.  

Adjourned 1:00pm

Next Monthly meeting is scheduled for Thursday January 13th from 11:30 am – 1 pm.